Just reading and researching this very real problem has helped me come to terms with it in my own life. It isn’t just me. It happens to people all the time. Very talented people whose lives appear to be very together and whose skills would never be questioned. These feelings are very real and very scary and need to be dealt with. So I would like to share with you a few things that I am going to do moving forward to deal with these emotions and replace them with the truth.
So let’s go forward into this brand new month with a new resolve not to allow these feelings to shame us any longer. To no longer give the power to these feeling that keeps us from fully stepping into our calling. When we are honest with ourselves and with others regarding our struggles and insecurities, everyone wins. And that is a beautiful thing! Have a great week!!
When my grandmother passed away, and we were going through her things we found box upon box of brand new nightgowns, housecoats, and houseshoes. They were still wrapped in tissue paper, and many of them still had gift tags on them. As we moved through the house we found this situation repeated over and over; napkins and table clothes still in their packages, bath towels and fancy hand towels still with tags on them. And don’t even get me started on the fine china, silver, and crystal that only saw the light of day at Christmas, Thanksgiving, and Easter. Perfume, powder and bath crystals that were never opened. Purses that were never used. Many still in the gift bags.
Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath is a gift from God.
All of these beautiful things, things that were hand-picked for her by family and friends, things that she saved up to buy, and then only saw a few times a year, she never got to truly enjoy them. To savor them. To celebrate life in or with them. Because she was saving them for a special occasion, for someday, for one day. And then life happened. The everyday, ordinary, run of the mill day to day life. And because she didn’t see those days as worth celebrating the bags never got opened, and the tags never got removed. And that made me really sad. Many of those gifts were from me, or I was with my mom when she purchased them. I remember how excited she was when she opened them, and how excited I was to give them to her. But she never got to truly enjoy them. And that got me started thinking, what things do I have in my life that I am not enjoying to the fullest? Do I have items that I am saving for a special occasion?
Don’t save something for a special occasion. Every day of your life is a special occasion.
Thomas S. Monson
I quickly realized the answer to this question was yes. I had perfume I only wore on special occasions. I had dresses that were too fancy for my ordinary everyday life. Journals that were too pretty to write ordinary thoughts and feelings into. Meals that I only cooked when company was coming. Placemats and napkins that I just used when there were more than 3 people at my table. And on and on it goes. And that made me sad. Life is such a beautiful and precious gift. And the little family that God had given me to do life with is also a beautiful and precious gift. What a gift it is to just be alive today. I need to remember this is not a dress rehearsal, this life I have been blessed with deserves to be lived to its fullest. And the people in it need to be celebrated every single day. And you know what else? I deserve to be celebrated every single day. I am worth the pretty dresses and the sweet smelling perfume. My everyday words and thoughts are worth all the pretty journals. My life is worth living to the fullest every single day. Because life is indeed a celebration. How many times have I waited for the perfect moment, for everything to fall into place? Ultimately life is made up of moments. We can sit back and wait for them to happen or we can choose to create them.
The secret to being happy is accepting where you are in life and making the most out of every day.
It’s time to start using the good stuff. Instead of storing family heirlooms I will use these treasures to create new memories around them with my own family. I will burn the candles, I will use the good sheets, and I will wear the pretty dresses. Would you like to join me in this pledge?
Always keep a bottle of champagne in the fridge for a special occasion. Sometimes the special occasion is that you have a bottle of champagne in the fridge!.
If you are like most people, myself included different scares you. Different job, different route to work, different topping on your pizza, it doesn’t matter how big or how small the difference is, there is some degree of comfort in sameness. But I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that some of my biggest blessings have come from the times when I have taken the different path, made a decision that was out of my comfort zone and embraced the chance to be, well, to be different. That is the time when different moves out of the uncomfortable and scary and into the exciting and blessed. If I were to ask you for a picture of your friend group, your tribe, the ones that you get into the trenches with and do life alongside, what would that picture look like? For a big part of my life, my picture looked a whole lot like me, very little difference at all. But my life took a big turn about 7 years ago, a completely different way than I ever expected. And with that new way came the chance to see situations, circumstances and people with fresh eyes. God pushed me out of my comfort zone and taught me so much during this time. And my life has been enriched in ways I could never have imagined in the process. When we intentionally seek out people who are different than we are, who have different points of view, different life experiences and challenges, whose family structure may look different from our own, our lives become more colorful and vibrant. And we often learn that people who seem so different than us on the outside are actually kindred spirits on the inside…and that is when the blessing occurs. So look for ways this week to embrace different and watch your life explode with color, just like the flowers of spring! Happy Sunday!
By now you have probably heard of Marie Kondo and KonMari method of organization and tiding your home. If not, let me share a few links to get you started! Her website, which offers a wealth of tips and information, her first book, which was was a New York Times best-seller, and finally, the trailer to her new show on NetFlix, Tiding Up with Marie Kondo. She states her mission in life is to spark joy through cleaning and tidying. Now before you roll your eyes and quit reading, hear me out. I was very skeptical of this method at first. As someone who has loved organizing and tiding all my life, I felt like I had a good handle on all of this and the last thing I needed was to learn a whole new method, the proverbial you can’t teach an old dog new tricks mentality. But after reading the books and most recently, watching her show on Netflix, I have changed my tune. This old dog is excited to report she is happily using new tricks and having great results! Throughout the next few months, I will be reviewing the different aspects of this method and how it can help you make the best possible use of the space you have been blessed with. I honestly feel that whatever stage of life you are in, this method can benefit you, not only in organizing and caring for your possessions but in dealing with the mental clutter that plagues us all. When your surroundings are cluttered and messy, it affects your entire life. While the terms neat and clean are subjective, everyone performs better in an environment that has some semblance of order to it. And the feelings of pride and self-confidence that come alongside getting control of your space once and for all are genuinely life-changing.
“The moment you start tidying, you reset your life.”
Her system is a daunting one, as you will see on the trailer for her show. Most cleaning and organization methods have you go room by room, and what typically happens is you move one pile of stuff from room to room. With the KonMari method, you are attacking one category at a time. While this does make a bigger mess in the process, it is quite eye-opening to see all your things gathered in one place. It will not only shock you, but it will also help you to realize how much you have to be grateful for in your life. That is the ultimate goal of tidying up, to learn to cherish everything you have so you can achieve happiness within yourself and appreciate what you have. So take some time in the upcoming weeks to check out Marie’s new series, or check out her book (she has two books, but I highly recommend reading the first before beginning, it lays the groundwork for the entire system). I can promise you that a decluttered home will help you achieve an uncluttered mind, and that is something we all need more off in our lives!
.Located at 9336 Davies Plantation Rd in Bartlett TN, Davies Manor is the oldest existing home in Shelby County and quite possibly the oldest in West Tennessee. Built somewhere around 1830 the original owner is not for certain. We do know that William Davies bought the home in 1838 and his two sons Logan and James farmed the land and created the plantation part of Davies Plantation by expanding the farm to 2,000 acres. Ellen Davies-Rogers left the home to the Davies Manor Association upon her death in 1994. There are several outbuilding that’s make up the grounds including a small tenant cabin. There are also several gardens on the property that are maintained by Memphis Area Master Gardeners that help explain some of the aspects of pioneer life including a kitchen garden and a herb Garden. The home and grounds are open for tours Tuesday thru Saturday from 12-4. Admission is $5 for adults $4 for seniors and $3 for students. To read more about this historic home, please click on the link below.
The Liquor Store is a 68-year-old building that actually was a liquor store for many years. With all the original signage and unique shaped structure, it has the feel of a retro diner but with amazing upscale food and drink. It is open for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and had hand made desserts and pastries to die for. Broad Avenue has become a hot spot for unique one of a kind shops, pubs, and restaurants., To see the menu and hours click on the link below.